Horrible

Michael Arrington’s Ex-Girlfriend Alleges That He Physically Abused Her via Public Facebook Post

"It hurts when you love someone borderline and they can't feel anything at all for you...all for keeping his reputation."
Arrington. (Photo via Flickr.)

Mr. Arrington. (Photo via Flickr.)

Jenn Allen, a startup founder and ex-girlfriend of Michael Arrington, revealed on Facebook that her relationship with the TechCrunch founder and investor was so wrought by physical and emotional abuse that she can’t get out of bed.

The public Facebook post, first reported by Gawker, was published late Thursday night to Ms. Allen’s 4,500 followers. Ms. Allen said that Mr. Arrington cheated on her several times during their eight year long relationship and threatened to murder her. She described the emotional abuse as “equally bad,” claiming that she is “completely over” him. 

Gawker confirmed that they dated in 2006 and dug up pictures of them together on her Flickr account, but concluded (by looking at publicly available evidence) that the pair did not date for eight years, as Ms. Allen implied in her Facebook post. Gawker says the personal relationship between the two has dissolved.

Mr. Arrington wrote about being on the receiving end of physical abuse in 2009 for post on TechCrunch.

I want them to realize that their words influence others who may be inclined to “take matters into their own hands” under the mistaken impression that threatening to kill someone, or physically attacking them, is somehow righteous. And I hope that my peers who tend to sit on the sideline while others attack will start to take a stand against it.

Neither Ms. Allen nor Mr. Arrington returned comment to Gawker. We’ve reached out to Mr. Arrington and will update the post if we hear back.

Update (4/2 | 1:00pm): This just got even uglier, as someone claiming to be Ms. Allen has now jumped into the comments on the original Gawker post. (We’ve reached out to Ms. Allen, in an attempt to verify whether this is really her.) In a long response, she accuses Mr. Arrington of making anonymous, mean-spirted comments about her. She also accuses Mr. Arrington of raping a friend of hers and insists that he needs to get help for rage issues:

I’ve looked inward and outward long enough to finally say something and know exactly why I had to say it. His lies, abuse, threats and what he did to a friend of mine 5 months ago was unforgivable as well. He raped her, and she told me in person he called her to confirm he did it after the fact. I’ll leave it up to her if she ever wants to report it or say anything. This madness needs to stop, or he needs to start controlling his rage and rape ‘disorder.’

Read the rest of the comment at Gawker.

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