Love in the Time of Algorithms

Dating Startup Wants to Fly Surplus NYC Women to Meet San Francisco Men

Ticket for one?

Sick of hearing your single friends kvetch about how there are no marriageable men or women in your city? Now you can shove them into an airplane and never hear about it again!

The online dating startup The Dating Ring is raising money to match men and women from across the country because apparently, there are tons of single women in New York City and tons of single men in San Francisco. It is “a really silly problem,” they note. Read More

Love in the Time of Algorithms

OKCupid’s Most Desirable Straight Man Sounds Like a Creep

kristen wiig grossed out cringe

Online dating might be the best way to get a date these days, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t a nightmare.

Case in point: this New York magazine article about the four most popular New Yorkers on OKCupid. The site’s cofounder shared the stats after examining which users got the most messages in a one week period.

Most of them are totally normal humans coping with X rated spam from their many online admirers. The straight male among them, though, is a different story. Read More

Dating: The Final Frontier

We Ate Ten Pounds of Valentine’s Day Chocolate With HowAboutWe for Couples

Love at first chocolate making class! Here's a totally not staged photo of us holding hands with chocolate-covered gloves.

For a while, it seemed like single people got all the fun apps—do you know badly I always wanted to do that Tinder swipey thing?! Thankfully, last week I discovered HowAboutWe for Couples, the New York-based dating site geared towards people in relationships.

HowAboutWe began in 2010 as a singles’ dating site aimed at ending “endless online profile browsing,” cofounder Brian Schechter explained to Betabeat. He and fellow founder Aaron Schildkrout wanted to create an experience “where you post actual date ideas, and connect and meet in the real world, away from pokes [and] winks.” Read More

Love in the Time of Algorithms

Science: Men Who Use Smiley Faces Online Get Hit On Less

do not want. (flickr.com/katerha)

Everyone knows it’s creepy when guys use the :) smiley face flirtatiously.

We’re not exactly sure why. It’s probably the “I’m not threatening or scary, I promise” vibe. Either way, a text or email with a :) from someone you haven’t been out with yet is sure to send you running.

It turns out we aren’t in the minority. Actual, real life science (O.K., a “study” from Zoosk.com) shows that men who use :) in their profile have a 6 percent decrease in incoming messages and 12 percent fewer responses to outgoing messages. Read More

Love in the Time of Algorithms

Online Dating Coaches Help Hapless Singles Meet Their Mates

Consultant Laurie Davis, client Chanel Omari, and fellow dating coach John Keegan. (Photo: instagram.com/eflirtexpert)

Michelle’s path through the world of online dating has been littered with frauds, phonies and disappointments. Take the cop who claimed he was on disability leave. On their first date, he let slip that his “leave” was actually a suspension, the result of charges that he had beaten an ex-girlfriend.

Then there was the runway model who claimed to divide his time between New York, Miami and Houston—“It’s always a red flag when there are multiple cities,” Michelle said with an eye roll—but couldn’t produce a single nonprofessional photo of himself. He had plenty of close-ups of his abs, though! That imposter turned out to have lifted his images from a Bloomingdale’s catalog.

And don’t even get her started on the innumerable married men who tried to court her online.  Read More